Welcome to Growing Humankindness

Growing Humankindness means 3 things:  to grow into the fullness of our humanity, to foster kindness for our vulnerability, and to deepen our inner and outer connectedness.

We help people who self soothe with food and who long to bring a deeper well of compassion to their struggles and losses, the places where they've felt stuck. 

Here we weave together the worlds of relational neuroscience and Spirit to soften self blame, self criticism, and shame so that you can heal painful coping strategies, deepen self trust, and love, connect and give freely.

There's a deeper story that lives underneath the surface story of your struggles, and this story is both more true and more merciful. Together, we sing this story into being.

When we experience pain, trauma, and loss, we often blame ourselves, internalizing these ruptures as, “It's all my fault.” We start to believe, "Something's wrong with me." 

In the wake of this soul rupture, we turn to protectors to cope – things like overeating, overdoing, seeking approval, appeasing others, and perfectionism.

These coping strategies preserve our functioning. They're based in wise instincts to nurture, protect, and connect, and for this may they be praised. But when these protectors get stuck, they carry a high cost. Over time, these refuges become our secret shames. We fear them, fight to 'heal' them, work to overcome them, and identify with them. They become the small story we inhabit. 

But there's a deeper story that lives underneath the surface story of our shame, and this story is both more true and more merciful. This story asks us to look again at what we label as bad, or wrong, at what we blame and shame ourselves for. 

Wherever you're struggling is holy, where 'the light enters you.' It may be dark, yes. But it's not a battleground - it's a womb, a place of birth. 

We come alongside as midwife, to help nurture your deeper story into being. We offer practices to soften self blame, self criticism, and shame so that you can heal painful coping strategies, deepen self trust, and love, connect and give freely.

All transformation, wisdom, insight, and freedom arises from having a connected and compassionate relationship with your inner life. We'll help you nurture that relationship so you can connect with your path, embody your inner wisdom, and live your deeper story.

May your heart be nourished here.

Warmly, Karly and the Growing Humankindness team